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My Ugly Necklace – A Reflection


Necklace

Every day, I wear an ugly necklace. It’s a sterling raven skull slung on top of a cog by a short chain and a leather cord; and I made it myself.

I used to think that “those people” who wore punk, Goth, or other counter-cultural styles were all looking for attention. I had them all pretty well pegged. Their choices in style echoed silent screams of insecurity.

“What does it take to get your love and attention?”

“Will you love me no matter what I do, no matter what I look like?”

“Stay away. I will not be betrayed by love again.”

I thought I had it all figured out and chose for myself the most culturally bland and accommodating styles so as not to likewise appear so insecure. I made myself plain and ordinary, an ‘all things to all men’ kind of man.

Then something happened. What happened is a long story, involving the amazing providence of God in healing my heart. The short of it is that my own insecurities were unveiled and I learned that I too was trying to project something that I wasn’t. Instead of projecting my insecurities, and in truth my dislike for myself, I hid them behind a cloak of Average. Instead of crying out, I blended in.

But that event revealed something in me. I am not average or typical; none of us are. I was made for more than that. The necklace I wear represents that part of me that I feared, dismissed, and disliked for so long, that part of me I had to make peace with, that part where my strength truly lies.

I still think it’s a rather ugly necklace. It even takes effort for me to choose to wear it some days. And that is the point. It makes a statement. Not to those around me who see it, but to me. Whenever someone looks at my collar funny, whenever I look in the mirror, whenever I feel the pendent against chest, I remember. I remember that I’m not who I once wanted to be. I am stronger than that man, I am made unique and for a purpose, a purpose that transcends cultural expectations.

Not every punk is trying to tell you something, or trying to be something they are not. Sometimes they are just trying to remind themselves that they are Loved for who they are, and that who they are is so much more than Average.


Insecure Scientists Study Facial Hair


 

 

Male scientists aren’t known for being the most ‘manly’ of men and it is my suspicion that it was not strictly an interest in human sexual selection that motivated this study

The idea was simple, get a bunch of guys and take pictures of them as their facial hair progressed from ‘Baby Face’ to ‘Grizzly Adams’.  Then have a bunch of people rate each image on attractiveness and other perceptions.  Careful analysis of the results should tell the average guy the how much facial hair to grow to attract the average lady.  It should likewise tell us stubbly-challenged researchers how disadvantaged we are, thereby helping us gauge on what level of desperation we need to operate.

The results?  Not good for us baby-facers…  The difference between Baby-Face and the Short Stubble ‘Sully’ look (RE: Dr. Quinn) was marginal in most cases, with the exception that more facial hair tended to correlate with higher masculinity across the board.  Damn.  More hair also trended with better perceived parenting skills, which makes some sense if you assume facial hair also trends with physical and mental maturity (it doesn’t).

On the ‘Attractivness’ scale the models over all scored dismally low.  That’s what happens when you use yourself as a data point in your own project…  However, assuming that the general ugliness of the models didn’t skew the study, it seems that ‘Heavy Stubble’ Wolf-man was rated the most attractive.  So, the short stubble look that is so popular right now is off my at least 5 millimeters maybe 10, at least among the women studied (which may or may not have included the scientists’ Moms).

The bottom line?  I’m glad that my beautiful bride hates facial hair of any kind.  She’s an outlier, thank goodness.  Otherwise I’d have to invest in a lot of Rogaine for my face and spend a lot more in razors than my current thrice weekly shave currently requires.

Thanks ScienceNow for reaffirming our fears


$30 Steampunk Watch


I like steampunk, but you won’t ever catch me wearing a bowler hat and monocle around town.  I’m not even one or fashion really, just ask my wife.  But I did find myself in need of a new watch the other day and I figured, why not something with a little flare?

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